“I blame no one. I look in the mirror” – Denzel Washington
People who play the role of a victim believe everything that happens to them is completely out of their control, therefore, it is never their responsibility. They blame others when bad things happen to them and they have an extremely negative outlook on life.
The victimhood culture is popular on social media street. Don’t get me wrong, there are legit victims and attention seekers. The latter isn’t crying for help but campaigning for likes and retweets. It’s an ever-ending circle of who got more scars than the other. People who are always waving the victim card seem to be stuck in the past.
Playing the victim card is an extremely damaging and self-defeating behaviour. If you think about it, all of us are carrying a story of how badly we were once treated. That’s probably how we are wired as humans – we identify ourselves by the depth of our wounds.
Instead of forgiving or moving on from the past, we bandage our wounds with food, sex and alcohol but we continue to bleed.
Victims are excused in most cases – you get attention for being the victim without having to do anything, and it doesn’t hold the associated risks of failure if you try something new. Playing the victim card means resisting change or granting yourself a permission to be negative.
It’s easy to blame life and others for our shortcomings.
Taking responsibility for our actions requires some level of maturity. The journey of becoming a better a man is bit uncomfortable – one must step up and hold themselves accountable. As fun as it may seem to put blame on something or someone – don’t get it twisted, it’s a trap bro.
Perhaps the reason you’re not progressing in life is the victim card you carry wherever you go.
Things will only change when you look yourself in the mirror instead of pointing fingers. How long are you going to use your childhood or past as a scapegoat? Of course, it won’t happen overnight, but the trap can be escaped by acknowledging your contribution to the pain.
So, here is the question – are you going to let your past ruin your present?