May
Articles, Relationships
8 Things To Avoid On A First Date
We all know how nerve wrecking first dates may be and sometimes as a guy, there is a lot of pressure. Here are 8 things you should avoid doing to make your date is less nerve wrecking and as smooth as possible.
- Do Not Forget Your Manners
Remember your general manners. Hold the door open for your date. That instantly tells them that you have manners. Don’t forget to say please and thank you and be friendly and polite. How you behave towards other people also matters so make sure you are respectful to others too.
- Do Not Skimp On Personal Hygiene
Make sure you look good and smell good. First impression last so make sure you feel your best. Brush your teeth, shave, comb your hair and remember to wear perfume. Treat each first date like a special occasion; you could be meeting your future life partner, after all.
- Do Not Forget To Ask Questions
Questions are good to ask as they indicate that you are engaging in conversation so try not to talk about yourself the whole time. Go on the date with some interesting first date questions in mind. VERY IMPORTANT: when you do ask a question, remember to pay attention to the answer.
- Do Not Comment On What The Other Person Is Or Isn’t Eating
Do not comment on your date’s appetite! Whether they aren’t eating much or eating a lot, do not make conversation about it. All that matters is that they are enjoying the food.
- Do Not Get Too Drunk
Most people drink a bit more when they are nervous so that they can let loose. Just be careful to not get too drunk on a first date as you may just embarrass yourself or end up over sharing. Also, alcohol can also lower your inhibitions, which might lead you to take things further than you’d planned on the first date. 👀
- Do Not Use The Words ‘My Ex’
This may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised how easy it is to have memories start creeping in when you are in a romantic setting. Avoid talking about your ex as it may seem like you are not ready to date yet.
- Do Not Get Too Awkward Or Confrontational
There are certain topics that are too serious or confrontational that you should avoid discussing on the first date. It’s good to find out shared value, however, some topics can become uncomfortable so just be cautious.
- Do Not Be Cheap When It Comes To Paying The Bill
Studies show that most men and women still expect a man to pay the bill on his first date. The rule of thumb is if you are choosing the venue, make sure that you choose a venue that you can afford for the both of you. If the other person offers to pay for the bill, always make sure you offer your share and chip in.
All the best Gents! Let us know what you avoid on first dates in the comments below.
Article inspired by: https://www.eharmony.co.uk/dating-advice/getting-to-know/10-things-never-to-do-on-a-first-date/
Great points will surely share with my son. Really appreciate this wisdom
Wow ,I didnt know all of this before 😂..
This is some solid advice
I like the no.2 tip
Gents are sometimes shy to ask about girls surnames and it is proven that last names are a necessity in a relationship short quiz. You may be pursuing your sister so introduce yourself thoroughly and then ask kindly. Knowing about a lady’s last name is a sign of next date or cancellation romantically. Gents, I know this will be a little awkward but it is relevant between two individuals. Happy Heritage Month bafwethu🏺
Don’t pretend gents. Be you. Be yourself. Don’t forget to compliment your date but not too much. Thank you for the article
Noted ✅. Good facts
We really appreciated the article
We all know that ladies love attention and appreciation but mostly they appreciate money, gifts, and respect. Just give them these you have a recipe for a longer lasting relationship or wedding. Take it from a guy that’s been married for the last 12 years.
Yeah am not interest in situation ship because I don’t wanna hurt other, yes they hurt me so many times but revenge isn’t my thing.
On my first date with my partner I did not want to exergerate in what I do not afford or cater for. I tried my best to be as simple as I could inorder to mantain the first simple impression. But the manners was in pint as to contributions and all. Thank you for reminding me of my first date 2016. Iam still with my partner since then.