Sep
Do you know what guys do when chicks aren’t around? They gossip! Like Chris Rock would shout “yes I said it” guys are probably worse than females. It might not be giggling and high fives in between the chit-chat like chicks do. Maybe it might not be extreme to the point of making time to gossip.
The reason guys would deny to ever gossip is because they’re dishing “facts” to each other not lies. Women are convinced that boys only discuss the “usual stuff” like fast cars, sport and booze. That’s just small talk when a guys isn’t amongst his crew.
The reason there are books like “Act Like A Lady, Think Like A Man” by Steve Harvey (including his TV show) is because guys “secrets” are more juicer to women. If a woman would like to know if her guy will ever move out of his momma’s house and marry her. Asking her friends to analyse the “situation-ship” isn’t really helpful. The answer to those questions are locked in her boyfriends BFF’s chest. The boyfriends BFF might only have the “ego version” (as guys tend to add chakalaka sauce) of the situation-ship.
The BFF might not have all the “secrets” she would like to know but he as the “ego version” of her boyfriends situation-ship analysis.
I’m not condemning guys to stop gossiping BUT they can start to have more constructive convos. In 5 years time life might not be as fair as it is now. Besides you don’t want to be left behind because you were obsessing about your the chick that broke your bro’s heart.
Below we came up with positive topics for you gents that you can start including in your secret convos because after all, Manbox is all about #BuildingBetterMen
Stokvel: If you already waste money buying each other booze or unnecessary gifts, starting a stokvel should’t be hard. At the end of the day the whole crew is winning. No more financial excuses when you have to plan a shot left to Durban this coming festive.
Business Plan: Instead of complaining about the lack of opportunities maybe now is the right time to create one. Also it doesn’t hurt to have a side hustle where you all bring your skills together to have a passive income.
Grooming: That one dude in your crew with a stinking breath and scruffy beard is messing up everyone’s game. Why allow your Tarzan friend to drag you down to the jungle?
What else do you think should be a topic of conversation when you and your gents link up? Let us know in the comments below.
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Man should stop gossiping of unessesary stuff and start sharing ideas.
While I still believe the gossip wont stop especially at a braai or party but I definitely agree with the fact that we should start having more meaningful conversations, start businesses together, connecting each other with opportunities and just encourage one another in general.
Being there for each other emotional and physically.
But if gents are true friends I guess they would tell their other dudes to take care of them selfs
One thing I think most gents might be scared or feel skeptical to do is telling their buddies about their hygiene.
Yeah It is true, we might say we don’t gossip but we actually do.
Stokvel is a good Idea am thinking I would ask my gents we could engage. A stokvel with gents only would be very interesting.
I like the idea of talking about productive things like talking about business ideas, this might help bras grow.
We might talk about many things but I bet gents won’t leave out girl’s in talk 🤣🤣🤣
As a university student I always talk about academics when am with gents.