The phrase ‘stay in your lane’ is used as a term of “admonishment or advice against those who express thoughts or opinions on a subject about which they’re viewed as having insufficient knowledge or ability. When we compare ourselves to others, there are only two feasible outcomes: we’re better than them, or they’re better than us.
Of course, it’s easier said than done to not compare yourself to others, but here are four things to do to stay in your lane and avoid comparison.
When we compare ourselves to others, we’re often comparing their best features against our average ones. It’s like being right-handed and trying to play an instrument with your left hand. I bet you’ve heard this before, happiness and contentment come from zero comparison. There is one thing that you’re better at then other people: being you. This is the only game you can really win.
Dance with reality
There’s nothing more exhausting than trying to be liked by everyone who crosses your path. Bro, you can be anything, but you can’t be everything. As humans we struggle to dance with reality, so we’d do anything to be seen or accepted by others. I’ll say this just once, it’s OK not to be everyone’s cup of tea. Instead of spending hours wondering what others think of you, perhaps you should accept what is.
Willingness to learn
Having a teachable spirit is the best way to stay in your lane. Of course, we all strive for the moment where we’ll feel like “we’ve arrived” but that’s an illusion. There’s no point of marrying ideas or be too obsessed with your ways of doing things. The willingness to learn grants you an opportunity to learn something you’d probably not know if you introduced yourself as an expert.
Do it at your own pace
There’s nothing wrong in doing things at your own pace. It’s absolutely OK to be in your 30s and still trying to figure things out. This life thing isn’t about who has the coolest caption or the perfect selfie. Don’t get it twisted bro, the social media streets will make you underestimate your hustle. Staying in your lane is all about knowing your worth and focusing on doing you.
The most important things in life are measured internally. Playing to someone else’s scoreboard is easy, that’s why a lot of people do it. But winning the wrong game is pointless and empty. You get one life. Play your own game.