Being A Man In The #MeeToo Era

What does it feel being a man in the era of #MeeToo, #AmINext or #TimesUp? As young men it’s overwhelming to witness men in power being brought into their knees by the “cancel culture”. According to Dictionary.com, “cancel culture refers to the popular practice of withdrawing support for (cancelling) public figures and companies after they have done or said something considered objectionable or offensive.”

We’ve seen recently the Hollywood giants such as Harvey Weinstein, Charlie Rose and Bill Cosby fall by the power #MeToo movement. The idea of being a man in the 21st century is bit vague. Nobody teaches boys to be men. The journey to manhood is a mystery – might as well call it a path to nowhere.

It’s quite tricky as men to voice an opinion in this era without being reminded that “it’s not your place or you haven’t owned the right.” As if men need permission to share their thoughts in matters that concerns women – maybe we do. One of the unspoken rules is:  speak out but know when it’s time to ‘shush’.

The unfair privileges of being born male are under scrutiny. Of course, we all lust for change and dream of a real equal society. But we’re products of our fathers, a generation of breadwinners and non-negotiators of power. This new era is for men who are flexible, tolerant and comfortable being led particularly by women.

Young men find themselves in an awkward position. Who will lead the way? Unfortunately, this era isn’t kind to neutral men – one must pick a side or be labelled as a culprit. The mum and nonaligned men have no place in the society. It’s no longer about us and them – both men and women are expected to find a common ground. The days of claiming the “head of the house” title is fading out. Don’t be shocked to find some men in the kitchen and women behind the desk making decisions.

The #MeeToo movement doesn’t exist to demote powerful men but an end to an era of entitlement and toxic masculinity. This is an era not to be ‘survived’ by men but to be embraced. Somehow it feels like men are given an opportunity to rebrand and position themselves in society.

There’s an urgency for men do constantly define themselves outside the ‘man-box’ – to discover a new way of being a man without violence and ego. As young men, it’s in our hands to bring about positive change to the world. It’s time to divorce anything that tarnish the image of better men.

Bro, what are you doing to define what it means to be a ‘better man’?

19 thoughts on “Being A Man In The #MeeToo Era

  1. craigschrimpton41 says:

    Its an article of hard facts and fight that has been fought for many years …. Women in this era have a voice and are finaly speaking out
    ..Its sad how it affects all men the stigma of the “me2” movement… Question is how do we fix this in this day and age as many powerful men have been connected to this…
    Women now make the decisions and men have become stay at home dads and husbands , because women have taken the corporate world by the horns and are making life defining choices…
    We salute them for they are strong and courageous in a masculine dominated world…As bros we have to redefine the role of men in our society and the global world… So many of us gents have fallen victim … Its even harder now to just get a ladies contact details without it being harassment or let alone stricking up an innocent conversation…

  2. Jairusd says:

    Wow, an insightful read. We all could be better, it’s only a matter of taking the first step. Always remember your doing it for yourself and everything else after works in your favor.

  3. collenette123 says:

    It comes down to Love gents. Even if we were not loved even if we have underlying issues we can learn from others we are never too old to learn
    Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 1 Corinth 13:4-8.

  4. Thabiso says:

    It’s so true. I’m in that space and sometimes changing the norm is a bit hectic. Personally I focus on what’s needed and make sure it’s achieved and don’t mind my partner taking the credit behind the scenes.

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