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This Is How You Cut Yourself Some Slack

Posted on by lasca | 30 comments

Being hard on yourself for things that you can’t possibly control is a super big waste of time. And if you think about it – you probably do it a lot.

What are the signs it’s time to cut yourself some slack and just accept the fact that not everything needs to be perfect? There are probably 99% chances that you’ve noticed these signs but chose to ignore them.

Perfection is a lie

It’s good to have goals and standards for yourself, but sometimes they can get a bit out of hand. When the idea of “perfection” is constantly looming overhead, it can become difficult to find ways to give yourself a break, especially when things don’t go according to your plan.

Even though we all strive for it, perfection is not something that anyone can ever achieve. That’s probably because the only place perfection exists is in the movies.

Being perfect isn’t all it’s cracked up to be. In fact, it’s actually tiring to constantly be on the “hakuna matata” mode.

Love yours

We live in a culture that forces us to measure our worth based on number of likes and followers we have on social media. What did J. Cole say about this? “No such a thing as life that’s better than yours”. No cap, contentment come from zero comparison.

That’s a fact bro. Cutting yourself some slack begins by having a positive dialogue with yourself and accepting your flaws.

Vulnerability is not weakness

Your feelings are legit bro, don’t let the streets confuse you. Being strong and strong has served us nothing but pain as men. It’s totally OK to seek for help – doing things solo is like fighting against what makes us human.

Bro, it’s important to cut yourself some slack. That means practicing self-compassion and the capacity to forgive oneself. It’s not about having a big crib and fancy wheels – cutting yourself some slack means being present in your life and trusting the process.

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30 thoughts on “This Is How You Cut Yourself Some Slack”

  3. Siphathisiwe N. says:

    All my life l have tried to be Mr perfect and when things do not go my way l blame myself, my self esteem get affected. When l realised that it is okay not to be perfect a lot changed for the better. Thank you Manbox.

  6. Kingsley M. says:

    I grew up not knowing my biological father and I knew how that felt. One day I told myself when I was able to get out of my neighborhood that I grew up in, that wasn’t the best, that I would come back and help kids that felt just like me.
    This article has taught me that as a man Ian not weak when I am vulnerable and it’s okay to be kind to myself.
    This article has made realise that I should let young people know it’s possible to be successful despite any social-economic shortcomings.
    In a nutshell i learned to be kind to myself and the next person.

    • Marshall B. says:

      The struggle is real as l have been hard on myself trying to provide for my family and hitting walls and can’t face my family when they are expecting dad to be providing. Have just learnt l also am a human and need to cut some Slack as l am not weak. Thanks man this is really intriguing.

  8. Koketso S. says:

    This article is what i needed to read because I’ve been having a hard time with my exams, trying to gym and also be consistent with my social media influencer work , I haven’t been cutting myself some slack .Now I realise it’s okay to feel vulnerable and stressed about your future and what you wanna achieve.

  10. Damon A. says:

    Yoh as a student times are super hard, because only you know what you go through mentally and humans are not robots no matter much we want to believe. I pray everyone is okay and heals and makes it through this year.