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The War Between The Dynamics Of Love And Money
To love and to be loved is a two-way transaction in any relationship whether it is a relationship with family, friends or a romantic relationship.
When we take a look at relationships between women and men and bring out the topic of LOVE, and something that is also loved; MONEY, what thoughts come to mind? Is love with money something that is shown equally in a relationship?
Some may yes, and some may say no, some may have other opinions about this topic, but let’s unpack it from an angle where love between males and females is seen as NOT being equal. We will also explore some advice that you can take to manage this in your relationships.
Valentines day, for example; a day of love celebrated internationally, we always witness women being shown love by the men in their lives by being showered with gifts, flowers and all kinds of romantic gestures. Rarely do we see the same from women, and some men feel pressured by this ‘societal norm’.
Very often men express that women expect men to meet their financial demands, give them gifts, take them on vacations, while also meeting their emotional and physical needs. Most of these require MONEY which is why men often wonder if there is really a survival of the fittest battle between love and money.
Before we continue, let’s take a step back…the culture of love and money between male and females stems from the gender roles that were put into place many years ago where the women were expected to perform household duties while waiting for the men to come back home with an income to take care of the family.
The world has; however, evolved over the years and this culture has been taken into an extreme in some cases. With all the pressure of trying to be the perfect ‘man’, some men do experience the battle on love and money. Here are a few ways you can handle the war between love and money with your loved one:
- BE TRANSPARENT
Be honest and open with your loved one about your financial capabilities so that they can be aware and have realistic expectations.
- DISCUSS LIFESTYLE CHOICES TOGETHER
Have conversations about the type of life you both want to live so that there can be compromise in the relationship. Make sure you are clear on what you both want in life so that you are on the same page.
- SET EXPECTATIONS TOGETHER
Having unrealistic expectations will lead to disappointment from both parties. It is important that you set expectations so that you can avoid money and relationship problems.
- STILL SPOIL YOUR LOVED ONE
We are not saying you must not spoil your loved one, we just encourage you do it in a mindful way that will not cause a war between love and money in your life. We want you to love fully, boldly, and whole heartedly, but with no pressure from the war between love and money.
Best wishes,
Manbox HQ
We are socialised from a different view in terms of relationships and money .men are taught to provide and women are taught that a men must look after her , so its moneary thats imdoctrinated hence the fall of many relationahip falls because of the disparitu
its a challenging topic , but how different these days are compared to those where relationships lasted because of love and not what you would be able to give me in physical possessions.
I see Transparency, spoiling each other BUT discussing LifeStyle choices and Setting the expectations together are key in any relationship. I believe that they build a strong and healthy stand for both man & woman in a relationship. They also reduces chances of frustration and confusion…
money can ruin a relationship, but with love and understanding and using your long term goal brains together, you can overcome
I always witness this on my dearest mom, who is a single mother of 3. She always struggles to make us happy with every little money she gets and that teaches something about love and money. Thank you for this article
Good Read indeed. The Bible reads..”The Love of money is the root to all evil” not the relationship with money or the need of money but the Love of money will set you astray. So with all we do regarding money respect it and it will respect you.
YOO, you just opened my wound. I had experienced war between the two”love and money”in a bad way.I was divorced by my wife because after being unemployed.
This is not something spoken about before you get married and we need to normalise it amongst the younger generations.
Love is a very beautiful and beat feeling in the world knowing you have someone that loves and supports you and is always by your side no matter what happens…I’m lucky to have that type of love…I lost my job a year and a half ago and till this day it’s hard to get a job but my partner is very understanding and always giving me positive vibes and supporting me every way possible which is a very hard thing to find now days because money became the main focus in a relationship. There are a few good hearted genuine living people out there still so don’t give up and you’ll find your soul met that will give you that old school love.
I don’t no if it’s the way I was raised of my previous experience with ladies bt I find it so hard to give my wife money or 3ven send to her accnt.. If she nids sumthing I prefer she used my card. Sometimes she feels I dnt love her or think I believe she deserves to b spoiled by me, bt I honestly find it hard to give her money and it’s truely a big issue in our marriege 😢😢😢😢