Jan
Building better men
Are you stuck in a situation-ship?
There is a myth that most guys prefer a situation-ship than a normal relationship. Apparently in a situation-ship there is less nagging, zero drama and lower expectations. Sounds like a convenient deal, right? If you investigate these situation-ships you will notice that the willing participants are usually the people who have trust issues or have been betrayed in their previous relationships.
Perhaps situation-ships are good at allowing two people to take it super slow and figure out exactly what they are to each other.
The word “situation-ship” is mostly used to describe friends with benefits, or people who are essentially dating but don’t say they’re dating or refer to the other person as their boyfriend and girlfriend. Situation-ships, aka ambiguous with no label on them, have been around for ages now. Trust me fam, sticky situations have been there from the beginning of time.
Situation-ships are thought of as emotional booty calls, because there are likely more feelings involved than just a cut-and-dry-friends-with-benefits. If you haven’t given a relationship a label yet but are hanging out in a non-platonic way, you might be in a situation-ship.
Does it mean people don’t get hurt in situation-ships? They do bro, so many egos have been bruised and hearts crashed into pieces. It’s usually when one catches feelings while the other is in it purely for fun. If you are spending time in a temporary location like traveling abroad or being temporarily relocated from work, a situation-ship might be a good thing.
As convenient and flexible as it sounds, one needs to be clear from the get go. Of course, there is no point in settling in a relationship that doesn’t serve you. But a situation-ship isn’t a ticket to irresponsible and going around hurting people. Situation-ships can become painful if you want something more from the person you’re seeing, and they’re simply not on the same page
Are you stuck in a situation-ship? Be brave and transparent and initiate the dreaded relationship talks about where you currently are and where you would like to be, as far as an exclusive relationship with that person. Don’t expect to lock it down instantly. Define the relationship over and over again, with frequent check-ins to get temperature readings about where you guys are at.
Bro, have you been in a situation-ship?
Let us know if it worked out for you or not
The sad reality is that most of us are in these situationships and toxic ones for that matter. Value your happiness and leave a situationship once it becomes toxic. Toxic relationships can be very dangerous and unhealthy.
do situationships have to be toxic? I don’t think so
I have been, it’s a waste of time and unnecessary heartache.
Broz! Lol
I am fully IN the situation-ship with this girl since 2020 and we are cool.
It’s always good to label it from the beginning njeee.
Yeah am not interest in situation ship because I don’t wanna hurt other, yes they hurt me so many times but revenge isn’t my thing.
i was in an situation ship last year and i must say i had the best time of my life life is really fun in a situation ship i met my soulmate there but i have to break it off because she was too attached to me and i get scared when a lady is connecting with me ka everything i fear commitment guys sorry
I’m in a situationship as my gf broke up with me in Nov 2021 and now just wants to be friends and I want her back as my gf, so it’s really very difficult for me, it really sucks
Last year around Feb2021 I met a lady she’s 2 years older than me. I approached her and I won her over but we had an discussion and we agreed that it’s gonna be a casual thing let’s not put a lable to it. Fasforward now she’s pregnant we expecting a baby girl on April.
So my situationship brought up a blessing but am so not unprepared as I’m not financial stable.
I find situationships more convinient and not as dramatic and emotionally taxing as most relationships and marriages are.
This really speak to me. Sometimes we are in situationships with relatives: toxic cousins etc. Your happiness comes first. Know when to unplug.
Profound! We have a tendency of watering dead flowers, wasting our time and energy. Let that relationship go if it gets toxic or no longer serve your interests.