Jan
Building better men
Are you stuck in a situation-ship?
There is a myth that most guys prefer a situation-ship than a normal relationship. Apparently in a situation-ship there is less nagging, zero drama and lower expectations. Sounds like a convenient deal, right? If you investigate these situation-ships you will notice that the willing participants are usually the people who have trust issues or have been betrayed in their previous relationships.
Perhaps situation-ships are good at allowing two people to take it super slow and figure out exactly what they are to each other.
The word “situation-ship” is mostly used to describe friends with benefits, or people who are essentially dating but don’t say they’re dating or refer to the other person as their boyfriend and girlfriend. Situation-ships, aka ambiguous with no label on them, have been around for ages now. Trust me fam, sticky situations have been there from the beginning of time.
Situation-ships are thought of as emotional booty calls, because there are likely more feelings involved than just a cut-and-dry-friends-with-benefits. If you haven’t given a relationship a label yet but are hanging out in a non-platonic way, you might be in a situation-ship.
Does it mean people don’t get hurt in situation-ships? They do bro, so many egos have been bruised and hearts crashed into pieces. It’s usually when one catches feelings while the other is in it purely for fun. If you are spending time in a temporary location like traveling abroad or being temporarily relocated from work, a situation-ship might be a good thing.
As convenient and flexible as it sounds, one needs to be clear from the get go. Of course, there is no point in settling in a relationship that doesn’t serve you. But a situation-ship isn’t a ticket to irresponsible and going around hurting people. Situation-ships can become painful if you want something more from the person you’re seeing, and they’re simply not on the same page
Are you stuck in a situation-ship? Be brave and transparent and initiate the dreaded relationship talks about where you currently are and where you would like to be, as far as an exclusive relationship with that person. Don’t expect to lock it down instantly. Define the relationship over and over again, with frequent check-ins to get temperature readings about where you guys are at.
Bro, have you been in a situation-ship?
Let us know if it worked out for you or not
I don’t wish to find myself in this kind of situation if you not happy about something speak out perhaps you might find that the other partner is going through the same
I am currently in the same situation-ship and I can tell you it drains me completely , my heart tells me this is it but other part of me battling to leave. As much as it been full years I am certain time will come when I will have courage to walk out ……………
Hehehe 😜 I have been in one before but bro, gees, that’s was just too much for me to handle, why? lol because i’m a hopeless romantic, emotionally invested and i just love the idea of love. Of course i went in there because I got tired of fully committing to relationships only to get bitten in the end. Also i like to try out things before dismissing it, at least first hand experience then decide if you like it or not. That situation-ship turned out to be the most toxic ship i’ve ever experienced lol… I obviously unintentionally fell way too deep and the other party wasn’t, so it became to stressful for me and let it all go as it wasn’t serving me anymore., i mean what is a hopeless romantic doing with situation-ships lol. I do think it’s worth a try, especially when you’re not looking for anything serious right now. Do you research on situation-ships, be upfront with the next person about what you want and you might not go wrong like me lol.
Good article, very interesting read.
Yes, but i think it’s about time to be transparent and build something solid because i feel like I’ve been wasting my time with this situationship thing…..I’m old enough to settle down and start my own family.
Situation-ship mostly end In tears, being in one that led to unnecessary stress and headaches
I have been while travelling in different places for limited periods and it worked for me then but can be hard on the sensitive heart…
The reality is that these situationships waste our time and are very toxic. Value your peace and happiness enough to leave that toxic situationship.
I agree with you completely ,
I’m single, always seem to meet the wrong woman and land up gettong hurt in the end, woman are hard work Manbox LOL 😉
I don’t necessarily think situationship only implies between the two dating, I think it also implies to family who are toxic. Because if you don’t set those boundaries you will suffer