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Building better men
Are you stuck in a situation-ship?
There is a myth that most guys prefer a situation-ship than a normal relationship. Apparently in a situation-ship there is less nagging, zero drama and lower expectations. Sounds like a convenient deal, right? If you investigate these situation-ships you will notice that the willing participants are usually the people who have trust issues or have been betrayed in their previous relationships.
Perhaps situation-ships are good at allowing two people to take it super slow and figure out exactly what they are to each other.
The word “situation-ship” is mostly used to describe friends with benefits, or people who are essentially dating but don’t say they’re dating or refer to the other person as their boyfriend and girlfriend. Situation-ships, aka ambiguous with no label on them, have been around for ages now. Trust me fam, sticky situations have been there from the beginning of time.
Situation-ships are thought of as emotional booty calls, because there are likely more feelings involved than just a cut-and-dry-friends-with-benefits. If you haven’t given a relationship a label yet but are hanging out in a non-platonic way, you might be in a situation-ship.
Does it mean people don’t get hurt in situation-ships? They do bro, so many egos have been bruised and hearts crashed into pieces. It’s usually when one catches feelings while the other is in it purely for fun. If you are spending time in a temporary location like traveling abroad or being temporarily relocated from work, a situation-ship might be a good thing.
As convenient and flexible as it sounds, one needs to be clear from the get go. Of course, there is no point in settling in a relationship that doesn’t serve you. But a situation-ship isn’t a ticket to irresponsible and going around hurting people. Situation-ships can become painful if you want something more from the person you’re seeing, and they’re simply not on the same page
Are you stuck in a situation-ship? Be brave and transparent and initiate the dreaded relationship talks about where you currently are and where you would like to be, as far as an exclusive relationship with that person. Don’t expect to lock it down instantly. Define the relationship over and over again, with frequent check-ins to get temperature readings about where you guys are at.
Bro, have you been in a situation-ship?
Let us know if it worked out for you or not
Situation-ship is a very tricky relationship where everything is always good, champagne always cold. There’s less fight in a situation-ship amd too much good time and sex. The relationship tend to be so good to be true and one easily catches feelings. It can destroy or build depending on your intentions
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I have done situation-ship and its didn’t work out for me because I got too attached and I wanted more than a guy was willing to give
I have been there ,and think I’m still having that …
I don’t want to be in a situation-ship because most of them end up being toxic. They usually tend to have a wrong or should I say a different meaning to the other part especially when affection develops..
Communication is vital when it comes to situationship. Better communication leads to a better understanding of what both parties bring to the table. Once feelings start to escalate, discuss it so that you both change from the situationship. It’s always good to leave before it becomes Toxic, signs are there when they start questioning your every move and how you don’t make sacrifices
Eish love life can be very tricky sometimes. All relationships have those moments of situationships but if the toxicity continues then I will advice you to leave while you still can. Remember your happiness comes first than being in a toxic relationship. Sometimes we end up flooding in situationships by not wanting to change people in our lives.
Situationships can be fun, but hey people tend to catch feelings! So , no situationship for me!