06
May
Building better men

These Are People You Should Surround Yourself With

Posted on by lasca | 16 comments

Take a look at this Colin Powell quote and think about it: 

“A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like shown by the kind of friends he chooses.”

It’s a fact bro, the people you spend the most time with shape who you are. They determine what conversation dominate your attention. They affect which attitudes and  behaviours you are regularly exposed. Eventually you start to think like they think and behave like they behave.

We can’t contest it, some people hold us back, while other propel us forward. That is just the way it is. For instance, you can’t hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive life. Make sure you have these three types of people in your circle.

Team player

Nowadays loyalty is a rare commodity, almost everyone is looking for themselves. Whenever someone opens their mouth, each sentence starts with “me, myself and I”. Don’t get it twisted, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in making yourself a priority. However, you won’t lose any points by being considerate and a team player. Don’t we all wish we can have a friend(s) that listens, hype us up and totally got our backs? In your circle (whether big or small) make sure you have a team player.

Hustler

In your circle you can’t only have dreamers with no action. I bet all of us have that one friend who has been trying for years to create an App or go back to school, but they barely take the first step. If you want to succeed in anything you must surround yourself with hustlers. People who are not afraid to fail and start over. Do you have an idea? Great, now it’s time to bring hustlers in your team to help you execute it. Otherwise, it will just be another “cool idea” trapped in someone’s head.

Straight talker

The best ally to have is a person that doesn’t mince their words. A straight talker will say hard things that need to be said. This person is often accused of having negative vibes but that’s not the case. We all need someone who will call us out and challenge us to be better. If they agree with you even when you’re wrong, that’s a sign right there.

What type of people do you have in your circle?

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16 thoughts on “These Are People You Should Surround Yourself With”

  1. Zak S. says:

    This is so true, a genuine article that makes alot of sense, i am a police officer, and spend my days off with youth, young men whom i try and groom, since late i have watched some of these young guys change for the better, i have strated a training club where i make them train for phsyical wellness, i spend time moulding and shaping their futures, i have seen drug addicts turn their lives around by merely talking to them and motivating them, checking up on them, and giving them a sense of self respect and pride, it is true, the people you spend your days with, make a difference to your future, and can turn bad into good, thank you Manbox, for an amazing article

  2. Lucky M. says:

    This is actually me in all 3 cases… Sometikesbi feel that’s y I loose “friends” I say it like it is and I dnt wanna b around people who wanna be spoofed. I think of sumthing I do it now en my friends feel we should wait a bit, time waits for no1!!!!!! So currently the only prsn who seems to handle me is my husband he knows I wanna do sumthing now I take risk I hustler to a point he feels people will feel his not taking care of me hence I push soo hard.

  3. Macdonald M. says:

    Very important who you share your time with, time is money and time well spent will result in greater rewards. I’m a creative and love fashion, so lately i’ve been attracting people of that demeanour, it has been such a refreshing experience because we inspire each other to do better, we share opportunities and the support is just so amazing. i’m having with go-getters, hustlers and these folks work ethic is insane, it’s so motivating bro.

  6. Guy W. says:

    This is me down to a tee
    Team player

    Nowadays loyalty is a rare commodity, almost everyone is looking for themselves. Whenever someone opens their mouth, each sentence starts with “me, myself and I”. Don’t get it twisted, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in making yourself a priority. However, you won’t lose any points by being considerate and a team player. Don’t we all wish we can have a friend(s) that listens, hype us up and totally got our backs? In your circle (whether big or small) make sure you have a team player.

  8. John-Jay N. says:

    This article left my body covered in goosebumps. Energy is contagious. And the type of people will influence how you think,how you make your choice .Thank you for this well thought provoking article. We need to choose our friends wisely and we need to help those who aren’t making moves to start walking towards right direction and think out of ManBox and live their dreams.

  9. John-Jay N. says:

    Energy is contagious. And the type of people will influence how you think,how you make your choice .Thank you for this well thought provoking article. We need to choose our friends wisely and we need to help those who aren’t making moves to start walking towards right direction and think out of ManBox and live their dreams.