Take a look at this Colin Powell quote and think about it:
“A mirror reflects a man’s face, but what he is really like shown by the kind of friends he chooses.”
It’s a fact bro, the people you spend the most time with shape who you are. They determine what conversation dominate your attention. They affect which attitudes and behaviours you are regularly exposed. Eventually you start to think like they think and behave like they behave.
We can’t contest it, some people hold us back, while other propel us forward. That is just the way it is. For instance, you can’t hang out with negative people and expect to have a positive life. Make sure you have these three types of people in your circle.
Nowadays loyalty is a rare commodity, almost everyone is looking for themselves. Whenever someone opens their mouth, each sentence starts with “me, myself and I”. Don’t get it twisted, there’s absolutely nothing wrong in making yourself a priority. However, you won’t lose any points by being considerate and a team player. Don’t we all wish we can have a friend(s) that listens, hype us up and totally got our backs? In your circle (whether big or small) make sure you have a team player.
In your circle you can’t only have dreamers with no action. I bet all of us have that one friend who has been trying for years to create an App or go back to school, but they barely take the first step. If you want to succeed in anything you must surround yourself with hustlers. People who are not afraid to fail and start over. Do you have an idea? Great, now it’s time to bring hustlers in your team to help you execute it. Otherwise, it will just be another “cool idea” trapped in someone’s head.
The best ally to have is a person that doesn’t mince their words. A straight talker will say hard things that need to be said. This person is often accused of having negative vibes but that’s not the case. We all need someone who will call us out and challenge us to be better. If they agree with you even when you’re wrong, that’s a sign right there.
What type of people do you have in your circle?