Jan
Building better men
This is How to Escape “Soft Life” Trap
According to The Free Dictionary, the idiom “soft life” means a life that is typified by or filled with ease and comfort, without requiring any hard work, sacrifice, or unpleasantness. This short-lived trend has left many drowning in debt or depressed. It’s the overwhelming power of instant gratification, sprinkled with social media pressure. Let me tell you bro, “issa trap” don’t be fooled.
Of course, many have embraced this self-care attitude to life, willing to starve themselves to impress the streets. This Instagram life has no champion, no one is really winning it there. The need to live ‘soft’ has affected relationships – if you can’t provide for it (especially men) you’re kicked out of the dating game. All these ridiculous sacrifices are made for that one social media post. So much effort is invested in that caption and the location is everything.
Of course, no one wants to be perceived as the stingy type. But if you choose not to participate, you have zero street cred. We’re not bashing the “soft life” but what’s the fun if it means sacrificing your sanity? Below we have come up with couple of values to help you avoid this trap.
Know thyself
Knowing yourself means you’re in charge of your thoughts and you’re your own personality. Bro, don’t be hard on yourself – this journey is only fun if you’re doing it at your own pace. Self-awareness is a practice that everyone can always improve at. Knowing yourself means you’re not bothered by anyone’s instant success. It’s all about defining the “soft life” in your own terms and chasing it your own way.
Pace Yourself
Nothing of real value is built over night. If drinking cognac, owning a yacht or flying business class is your vibe – why not work towards your dream? There’s so much pleasure ticking things off your list at your own pace. True success is not only about obtaining things, the hard part is sustaining it. That requires hard work and discipline. Of course, we all want this soft life and we’d love to get it effortlessly but that’s impossible.
Nothing for mahala
Everything comes at a price. The hours you put it, the savings and hard work will eventually afford you the soft life you desire. Of course, there million ways to cheat your way to the top – unfortunately there are no guarantees. Bro, if you’re willing to work for it then it’s yours, period! The real soft life requires patience and lots of effort.
What’s the price are you willing to pay for the soft life (whatever that means to you) you want?
There is nothing wrong with improving oneself and chasing your dreams however be sure that these dreams you are chasing is going to fulfill you inside. There is nothing worst than acquiring something and tomorrow you’ve grown tired of it.
Finding your purpose and being comfortable in your skin and lane can be some sort of “soft life” because there you’re toughened and gain your voice and resilience. In a time where men are coming out speaking about mental health, some kind of “soft life” must be the pause station sikhokhe umoya.
Definitely true nothing for mahhala in this world
This is very true and insightful good old advice.
The day we realize nothing is for mahala all comes with hardwork and dedication. Soft life put a lot of people under unnecessary pressure
The blog is true but where do you draw the line? You can work on something overtime so that you can have the soft life in the end, how is that considered?
This blog post outlines very important points of which a lot of people shy away from talking about, thank you so much for this.
True, related better with other people when I got to know myself a little better. One thing I really needed to hear/read is the “pace yourself” part… I often put a lot of pressure on myself
This is so deep. Apart from it being so well written it’s very informative and honestly, the best thing one can do is stay positive, patient and continue putting in the effort to make it. Bro, you’ll make it.
Love this articles👌…and so true, nothing in life is for mahala.